15 February 2010

Mommy Seeking Mommy

This week on B-Metro.com:

Never having problems finding friends before, I assumed that the not-so-often discussed world of Finding Friends After Having Birthed Small People was an inviting land of play dates and casseroles. A comfortable abode in which I traded appetizer recipes and gabbed over a glass of wine on the weekends. I thought we'd all have something in common, surviving motherhood, and with a little luck and a killer quiche, I could totally nab a good friend or two to fill the position.
But the exact opposite has happened.
Read the entire entry here.

2 comments:

  1. What a good article! I'm sure many moms can relate. Shoot, even I can relate, and I live in the same town I grew up in. It's just harder (for me anyway) to make friends as an adult. Not to mention as a mother. My entire focus has been on my kids for so long that it's like I forget how to be a woman other women want to hang out with.

    I know it's no physical consolation, but blogging has been a Godsend for me. Instant friends who know exactly what I'm going through, because they're going through it too. Plus, I'm better at writing than I am at speaking. Which could be the answer to 'Why am I so awkward?!'

    Good luck, and keep at it. You're bound to meet another lonely mom at McDonald's sooner or later :)

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  2. You know, it's not just the transplants that have this problem! :) I live in what is essentially my home town - approximately a 10 minute drive from the house I grew up in, and a 7 minute drive from the house my husband grew up in. My SIL teaches at our old high school and still, I struggle to find mommy friends who are available to play date and gab and meet me for lunch when I'm going crazy in the land of a 2-yr-old. Part of my own problem is that I was apparently slow at getting to the mothering thing (all my friends have kids aged 6+ while I, of course have this young thing) and many of my high school friends who are in my same boat went away to college, met their soul mates and then STAYED in their college towns. My 2 closest high school girlfriends who are at least in the same state with me, haven't even gotten around to procreating and we all know how hard that can be - remaining friends w/ DINKS when you are no longer one.
    My saving grace has been church, but even then it's really only given me 1 good "let's take the kids and go shopping" friend and a couple of others when I get to go to MOPs.
    Either way it's hard. Because rarely do you find someone whose family is made up of the same ages as your own kids (so everyone has someone to play with) AND you like them well enough to hang out with.

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